If there’s one thing that all the world’s various cultures have in common, it is marriage. Beliefs, diets and languages vary greatly, but the desire people have to share their lives with another seems universal. Why then, is marriage so popular?
Marriage is the most important institution of human society. It has been the backbone of human civilisation.It is a universal phenomenon. Psychologists have said that people have a deep need for emotional security which marriage provides. Knowing that one has a partner in life makes it easier to cope with the problems of daily life. On the other hand, the fact that many single people are content to live alone suggests that the “emotional need” theory is incomplete.
Human Beings have certain urges like hungers, thirst and sex. Society works out certain rules and regulation for satisfaction of these urges. The rules and regulations which deal with regulation of sex life of human beings are dealt in the marriage institution. We can say that the marriage is as old as the institution of family. Both these institutions are vital for the society. Family depends upon the Marriage. Marriage regulates sex life of human beings.
FUNCTIONS OF MARRIAGE:
Marriage is an institutionalised relationship within the family system. It fulfils many functions attributed to the family in general. Family functions include basic personality formation, Status ascriptions, socialisation, tension management and replacement of members, economic cooperation, reproduction, stabilisation of adults, and the like.
Many of these functions, while not requiring marriage for their fulfilment are enhanced by the marital system. In fact, evidence suggests that marriage is of great significance for the well-being of the individual. Researches suggest that in comparison to unmarried people, married people are found to be more happier, healthier, less disturbed and less depressed and less prone to premature deaths. Marriage, rather than becoming less important or unimportant maybe increasingly indispensable.
A marriage in our society is perceived as a mere ritual to bring two families together. I don’t see it as a tradition that meeds to be followed just for the sake of it. You might not agree with the way I see this beautiful bond of two souls but I think the meaning of marriage is much greater than what the society tries to define it. Marriage isn’t a social or traditional compulsion. Two people decide to spend their lives together. They don’t enter into an agreement of compromise. Yes, there are times when we need to make some sacrifices for our loved ones but it shouldn’t be taken for granted which in todays society is quite common.If there has to be a lifetime commitment between two people there could be no commitment greater than the commitment of love.
Only Love, respect and compassion for each other can keep a relationship alive. If a marriage relationship continues without these three elements, it becomes a burden for a lifetime and a relationship of mutual benefits. A marriage in our society is considered as a means of generation survival. The old perspectives and traditions followed for years don’t let the meaning of marriage grow out of its restricted bindings. While some families feel the excruciating pain of seeing away their daughters away forever, for some families it means nothing more than a well renowned tradition that is supposed to be followed at a certain point of time. In our society nobody thinks about the two people who have to spend the rest of their lives together. A marriage can’t just remain to be a simple mechanism of complying with some conventional ceremonies.
Money spent as marriage expenses is still perceived a s a status symbol in our society. It’s disgusting to even think that this occasion is judged as a status symbol when its actually a moment of purity and a new beginning for two souls.
Our society and family should think from the perspective of the newly married couple rather than being too self centered, demanding and enforcing financial burdens in the name of traditional values because at the end its just about the two people to choose to spend the rest of their lives with each other with the commitment of forever respecting, loving and being compassionate towards each other.